My name is Nacor
👨🏻🏫 I am a teacher and a student. I'm captivated by how to stay curious to what is within and around. Life brings learning opportunities literally everywhere.
🌿I live for growth, conversations and insights. At times, when I'm not in that mood (I'm not a robot) I just look for distraction in many places, Netflix is a common one.
🧠I believe in the infinite wisdom of our emotional intelligence and how much our body and heart know. If we turn to emotional intelligence, we live more connected to our bodies.
💭 I also pay too much attention to repetitive intrusive thoughts that tell me different stories story like "I'm not good enough", almost believing them. How insane is this?
🕺🏻I love dancing through life experiences that present in front of me, whether sadness to let something painful go or joy to celebrate...I also sometimes try to rush to get things done and over and onto the next chapter. What for? I ask myself.
💟This is me now: a precious, loving, courageous mess of life paradoxes.
APPROACH
Awareness
How many times you’ve compared to others and felt empty or 'less than'?
It’s not about achievements, it’s about recognising what is already inside of you - going deeper. While I share tools and method with clients, my primary focus is to help them discover their story and their power because it's already there!
Self-awareness allows us to notice and evaluate our own assumptions, beliefs and actions and the impact these have on ourselves and others. What if we choose to operate from a place of curiosity?
This is how we begin to know — really know — who we are.
You can cheat others on who you are but never yourself!
APPROACH
Acceptance
How many times you’ve wasted energy thinking that you could have performed better and punishing yourself about why you did it that way? Telling yourself, "How could I?"
Judging ourselves is an essential blockage when it comes to true connection with ourselves and others. Through self-acceptance we can experience growth and transformation in our lives because we're in a state of openness and curiosity.
There are many different ways we can notice how we're treating ourselves. One way is thinking about the parts of yourself that you wish you could change because you think it would make you more acceptable, more lovable or more worthy.
I believe that there will always be something that I don't like about myself. However, how am I talking to myself about those things? In a loving or blaming tone?
By bringing clarity to our lives and developing our EQ in an authentic, curious and agile way, we're able to navigate uncertainty and complexity in our lives. This is only possible when we really understand and recognise our own real experiences.
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My life journey
JUNE 2021
Relationship
"For the first time, I'm in love with myself... and someone else"
JULY 2019
University degree
"I quit playing tennis semi-professionally and I have an identity crisis. If I'm not a tennis player, who am I?"
OCTOBER 2021
Start as a freelancer
"I'd say 'yes' to myself"
JULY 2017
I quit my job at NIKE
"My world opens up, my quest for embodying emotional intelligence starts."
University graduation time comes in the US, tennis season comes to a closure ,and so the routines-rituals-ego boosts that come with tennis are not there anymore and won't be back in the next season because...there's no next tennis season, I'm afraid.
Used to think of me as "Nacor, the tennis player", I now want to reinvent myself outside of the tennis world. While seeing that most of my classmates are starting "to climb the corporate ladder" for different reasons (student debt, making a career, etc), I decide to start traveling to leverage the beauty of the planet to make sense of me as a human. To find what gives me energy, what I connect and resonate with and getting to know others and their perspectives.
"I dream of the day I work at NIKE " I thought for years. My first "serious" working assignment magically leads me to NIKE. I had "the time of my life" socially, playing sports, enjoying the amazing NIKE culture. However, this is the tiniest part of my day, the other 8 hours per day I spend them on a job that I don't resonate with and doesn't allow me to serve others the way I want to.
I have a slight inner believe that what I wanted had to be out there but, was I too naive and idealistic by thinking that? And, simultaneously, I keep embedding myself deeper and deeper into the well-crafted NIKE web - the benefits, the reputation, the safety, and others. The deeper I got into this, the further away I drifted away from myself.
My 1 year contract at the startup FREE NOW comes to an end. I have a lot of fun, freedom and recognition doing my job AND I still feel a burning desire to share Emotional Intelligence with the world and to experience a '9-5 job' for me and my purpose.
I start from scratch by reaching out to see who may be interested and in reality it proved to be much more complex than just "reaching out". I get knocked down a few times, it's hard being by myself. I feel lonely. I think I'm not good enough to do this and struggle to find price rates for my services. This and much more, and I still wouldn't change it for anything - living up my dream.
While leaning into solitude in my house, I went through an instrospective process. Feeling great about myself and hating myself at the same time, I started breaking layers about my identity. Many of these layers were about relationships: "I'll always be by myself, I'm an independent one", "I know for sure what my type is...".
I discovered that having mental patterns and mindsets can be useful but can also keep me stuck in the past and in the old ways by trumping all of the growth and beauty that the present brings. As Albert Einstein said, "We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."
Q&A WITH NACOR
What fascinates me?
The human experience and how capable we are of reinventing and adapting to what happens in life.
How do I stay present?
I strongly believe on reinventing and working with what's present. We're changing beings, prepared to evolve and transform. This life journey has allowed me to live in 5 different countries and 11 cities in the past 7 years as well as getting involved in different projects. From volunteering with children or teaching tennis, to developing leadership programs.
One thing that gives me energy is...
Going out in nature and screaming "AAAH"
What is a question I have in my mind?
How to stay balanced and true to myself as I experience the beauty of life paradoxes (i.e. the need for security and/or freedom)?
What's my experience so far?
I’ve worked with multinationals like PwC or Nike and NGOs or universities to facilitate a greater sense of clarity, self-awareness and empathy in human's lives. An example may be teaching participants how to thrive in uncertainty, how to connect more to their bodies and its wisdom, and how to interpret such data.
My last life learning is...
To be curious and stay patient when feeling anxious and resistant to my transitions in life. Anxiety is a messenger of something greater to look out for. Anxiety is never the main problem, just the tip of the iceberg.
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